Young kids like Little Guy are very ‘literal’ – they interpret words as they are, don’t understand sarcasms or insinuations, and much less, rhetorical questions.
Take for instance this episode that occurred last Sunday evening. Big Guy was munching on some fish crackers.
Little Guy: Mummy, can I have some fish crackers?
Me: No, you just finished eating a piece of Twiggies.
If you eat fish crackers now, how are you going to
eat your dinner later, huh?
Little Guy: With my mouth.
If only ‘duh!’ was in his vocabulary and if only he knew how to roll his eyes! He must think that Mum must be very dim to ask such a ‘duh!’ question.
Another incident happened last year, a month before he turned three years old. Little Guy sometimes wakes up crying in the night because of bad dreams. He still does that occasionally. When that happens, he will always ask to sleep with Big Guy and me for the rest of the night.
Well, on this occasion, I comforted him by carrying him in my arms. When he had quietened down and before he could point in the direction of my bedroom, I asked him,
Do you want Mummy to sleep with you?
To my surprise, with his eyes closed and head on my chest, he shook his head. I thought that was strange, and so decided to ask again, this time, slightly differently,
Do you want to sleep with Mummy?
This time, he nodded. So I consolidated the two questions,
You don’t want Mummy to sleep with you but you want to sleep with Mummy?
He nodded again.
So it was clear now – to him, the first question referred to me sleeping with him in his room, while the second meant that he sleeps with me in my room.
It was a lesson on the importance of communicating correctly (at least to ‘literal-minded’ people). We have to be mindful of the words we use and how we use them (word order, emphasis, etc).
I’m always reminded about this incident when I pass by this restaurant whose signboard reads:
San Katong Laksa Steamboat Seafood Restaurant
How did the owner decide on the order of the three words Laksa, Steamboat and Seafood? If you switch them around, will the meaning be different? Will it affect your decision in dining there?
Bringing up Little Guy has sure opened my eyes and mind to many things that I’ve taken for granted. Sometimes, it’s a humbling experience.
I don’t look forward to the day when he’ll learn to say ‘duh!’ and roll his eyes at the same time!









